Planning a funeral is something nobody ever wants to do, but there's a good chance you'll have to at some point. When you've just lost someone, arranging a service and all of the other things that need to be sorted out make it all more difficult, yet it has to be done.
Because funeral planning is such a dreaded activity, it's not something you'd really want to think about unless you had to. Yet learning how to plan a funeral can be a hugely beneficial thing, and here's why.
You can support your friends and family
If you've taken a bit of time to understand what needs to be done when planning a funeral, you hopefully won't need to put it into action for a long time. However, there's a chance that one of your friends or a more distant family member will have to arrange a funeral, and you can be a lot of help. Having someone who knows a bit about the subject on hand to answer questions can make a huge difference to someone who's grieving.
It can save you a lot of stress in times of grief
When thetime comes that you actually do need to arrange a funeral, your stress will be greatly reduced if you already know how to go about it. You can make the arrangements more quickly, and you might already know what you want when it comes to some of the choices to be made. That gives you more time to look after yourself and your loved ones and to concentrate on the grieving process.
It gives you a good idea of what you want for yourself
Planning your own funeral is a good way to help out your close family when you pass away, and it ensures people know what you want. By learning about how funerals are planned, you get a more solid idea of the way you'd like to be celebrated when you die. It may even prompt you to start putting some plans together.
You'll get a new perspective on the whole thing
People think of death as an unpleasant, scary subject, and it's certainly not good to dwell on it. Looking into funeral planning, however, can make you see things differently, as you learn about the practical side and the nice things that can be done to remember someone.
If you spend some time researching funerals online, you'll probably find people talking about their firsthand experiences, which helps mentally prepare you for times when you need to plan one yourself. You'll also find the positives that people have taken from the process and how it helps to cope with death.
Funerals can bring forth such a range of emotions: melancholy, grief, regret, relief and nostalgia. As an assistant at a funeral parlour, I am privileged to help people with organising their loved one’s final journey. I have learnt that a good funeral parlour can make the occasion truly commemorative. When I attend funerals for friends, I am saddened to see that so many ceremonies are traditional and joyless. I later find out that the family members simply weren’t aware of options such as a graveside memorial service. I love the fact that one of my tasks involves showing family members various venues and demonstrating what can be done. In this humble little blog, I hope to make it my mission to share some of the ideas – big and small – from the best funerals I have seen. Perhaps it will give you some inspiration at a difficult time. Bless.