Many people confuse funeral services and memorial services. A funeral is characterised by the presence of a deceased person's body. On the other hand, the focal point of a memorial service is an urn or framed portrait of the deceased. Many aspects go into planning a successful memorial service for a loved one. Essential considerations include a budget allocation for a memorial service, choice of location, invitations, speakers, music and food and drinks. This article discusses organising a befitting memorial service for a loved one.
Why Is a Memorial Service Vital?
Most importantly, a memorial service celebrates the life of a loved one. The event also pays tribute to the deceased by honouring their spirit, achievements and unique personality. The service starts the healing process of a grieving family because it allows support from neighbours, friends and co-workers.
The location for hosting a memorial service should have some personal significance to the deceased. You can consider a public or private park, a family home or their favourite beach. Besides, if you plan on hosting many people, you should choose a location such as a favourite banquet hall, restaurant or religious place. A spiritual site is perfect if you want to work with religious leaders or adhere to certain rites. Remember to acquire the necessary permits when planning for a memorial service.
The cost of a memorial service varies depending on several factors, including location, food and drinks and the number of guests. Although the cost of a memorial service is slightly lower than that of a funeral service, you should work with a funeral service provider to ensure that you stick to your budget. Some of the payment options to finance a memorial service include personal savings, insurance, credit cards and financing through a funeral provider. Besides, confirm whether the deceased might have set aside a payable-on-death (POD) or Totten trust account dedicated to funeral and memorial service expenses.
Flowers and other décor are always a personal choice. Therefore, a family should work with a funeral director regarding the choice and arrangement of flowers. Ideally, a family has to order a bouquet for a memorial service based on flowers available in the region. Also, the choice can be influenced by the deceased's favourite colours.
You can post an obituary for a memorial service in a local newspaper, a website of your preferred funeral home or social media sites to invite friends and family to the event. Other ways of inviting guests include emails, phone calls and online invitations.
Funerals can bring forth such a range of emotions: melancholy, grief, regret, relief and nostalgia. As an assistant at a funeral parlour, I am privileged to help people with organising their loved one’s final journey. I have learnt that a good funeral parlour can make the occasion truly commemorative. When I attend funerals for friends, I am saddened to see that so many ceremonies are traditional and joyless. I later find out that the family members simply weren’t aware of options such as a graveside memorial service. I love the fact that one of my tasks involves showing family members various venues and demonstrating what can be done. In this humble little blog, I hope to make it my mission to share some of the ideas – big and small – from the best funerals I have seen. Perhaps it will give you some inspiration at a difficult time. Bless.